Nagging – Not God’s way!
“A quarrelsome wife is annoying as a constant dripping on a rainy day. Stopping her complaints is like trying to stop the wind or trying to hold something with greased hands.” Proverb 27:15-16
What is quarrelsome nagging? It is a steady stream of unwanted advice mixed with anger and complaining – it is truly a form of torture for our husband.
Being a wife of almost 30 years, I am very familiar with the destructive habit of nagging and complaining! It is one of the easiest ways to spoil a husband’s happiness.
Why do we nag and complain? We want to get our point across to our husband with our words. Women love to talk!
Personally, when I nagged my husband, I was usually concerned about my needs, getting my way and being right. Selfishness at its best!
When we nag as wives we think we are communicating but actually we are halting communication. Our husbands stop listening or they avoid us at all costs.
Nagging, arguing, complaining, and yelling are all things God warns us women about in Proverbs. Are we reading the Word? If not, how can we obey what is written?
“A foolish child is a calamity to a father; a quarrelsome wife is as annoying as a constant drip.” Proverbs 19:13
Let’s talk about the drip. Imagine a constant annoyance of dripping rain coming through the ceiling of your home. Drip, drip, drip… This drip of water is not only annoying it is destructive. Slowly, the water will damage your home if the leak is not stopped. The roof begins to rot and deadly mold starts to form on the ceiling and the home is not livable. One must flee from this home.
Let’s talk about quarrelsome nagging with our husbands. Imagine a constant annoyance of words flowing off your tongue toward your husband. Nag, nag, nag… This flow of nagging will eventually wear on your husband as it falls on his ears and heart. Nagging will be destructive over time and can drive division in your marriage. Your marriage will become full of anger, chaos, and hate – your husband will close up and flee to live in another room of your home or even worse may leave all together.
“It is better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.” Proverb 25:24
We love to nag and complain…I get it and have been there! Flowing constant nagging words at my husband to get what I wanted was the NORM for my marriage. But then…I was saved. I started reading the Bible and dedicated my life to Jesus. When we learn what is in the Word of God we can practice it, it is never too late! Get to know Jesus and read your Bibles!
My friends – we need to stop nagging! When we surrender our lives to Jesus we give up the right to nag at our husband. We give up all rights that go against the Word of God. #itiswritten
How do we change?
Go after God. Pray and ask Him to bring peace and love in your heart and to empower your speech with peace and love. With the Holy Spirit, this can happen! Be ready though… if you are a nagger, your husband’s first reaction of you holding your tongue and flowing words of love vs nagging will be – are you okay? Lol! Lived it. 
Words matter, where your heart is with God matters! Words of peace and love will now become the NORM and will keep your husband from being disconnected, beat down and fleeing!
As Christian women we need to study scripture and take it seriously. Proverbs is very clear that us wives do nag and complain to our husbands – husbands hate it and so does God! Nagging is annoying! It is not God’s way.
Get in prayer and ask God to help now! When we start obeying God we can then watch Him take this destructive habit out of our lives.
Love you!
A recovered nagging wife!
Lisa
